What Has Yet to Be Said About Zimmerman

I didn't have anything to say after George Zimmerman won his trail and Trayvon Martin was found guilty of being something scary, bad, and violent posthumously. It was sad and I knew that there were more clever and articulate folks who would say something I could Amen. So I've heard how we need to combat this fear and criminalization of our black youth, and how this case empowered racists to shoot our sons, and I listened to discussions about internalized racist oppression, systemic racism in our criminal justice system, and everything else you read, posted, talked about, and listened to.
It seems like we largely figure George Zimmermans actions to be racist either consciously or subconsciously and that he will likely live in fear for quite some time. There seems to be a kind of latent expectation that he's now a more empowered racist and feels quite justified in his choice of a course action that night. I wonder what if that isn't true, what if nearly instantly, or shortly after he regretted all that he did. What if he can't get the images and screams of young Trayvon out of his mind and longs to fall at the feet of that boy's parents, and America and sincerely apologize.
What if that we're the case then? I think we'd have an incredible story to use to combat what the thinking of those like Zimmerman. We'd get unique access into the specifics of what thoughts and processes lead up to taking Trayvon's life. That kind of insight and challenge to racist mentality could have ripple effects that are hard to imagine.
But he can't say that can he? No matter how sorry he could potentially be George Zimmerman can't apologize, can't repent or his freedom is in jeopardy. Really he has to insulate himself, cloak himself in justification & sad old wrong thinking from residual fear of spending years in a cell. He'd become the racist champion & if he ventured off the racist path he'd be steered back by some George Wallace type. This is why we need to move to restorative justice. No, there is no way to restore a life that's been taken. There's no way you can replace a son you shot dead. But there's value in trying to encourage a mental and behavioral shift and allowing someone to do all that they can to work against the kind of pain that they inflicted. I know we're so hurt and angry we may not be ready for this conversation, but will we deny that we If and I repeat IF there were a fundamental shift in his thinking and behavior that has no value, that wouldn't be with hearing and a space for that worth creating?

Fellas In the Friend Zone

This begins as a text conversation with my cousin on nice guys finishing last. I told him I disagree stupid guys finish last or nice guys that are attracted to horrid bitches. So while guys tend to think that they're in the friend zone for just being too nice, I've never heard a woman say anything close to this, they usually have reasons in multiples, here's a few.

You are boring: If your phone convos are dry as hell, she responds to your texts with one word or letter in most cases, then chances are you're boring. She keeps you around to listen when no one else answers the phone or be the reasonable guy when some other asshole hurts her. Chances are you had a couple of opportunities to get the goods on what she finds interesting in a man & you're ignoring it.

Hygiene health issues: c'mon brush she offered you gum every time you see her, or she keeps telling you to come work out with her. If she's into healthy eating you might not wanna order the double bacon burger when kickin it with her.

Overly respectful: kinda like being boring, calling a chic you wanna sleep with " young lady" & dancing three feet away like its the sixth grade dance, isn't the look. Even the most earthy & womanist of us low key wanna know you can pull hair & not stutter during dirty talk.

Punk Shit: you let dude in line in front of you at the movies totally punk you, she saw through your high road claim. Plus you cried when watching the Notebook.

You Talk to Much: Number one in my book, you've told her about exes & way too many reasons she shouldn't like you. Don't mention you love a girl you can dutch oven. I've even heard the literal " you would never be interested in someone like me" ---Not with that attitude, homeboy. Self-deprecating humor can be super funny, but if it doesn't come off as funny it looks like she'll have to rub your ego for your entire relationship.

Interview guy: probably not true of most women but I def get sick of interview dude, what do you want it of life, what do you find attractive? ----- homie I just wanna chill kick it

Sometimes it's just bad timing, you came in at a time friend was the only option & now she's just used to that. Sometimes there really isn't enough chemistry, & you're too focused on the challenge to see it. I do believe that the right party/ night/ alcohol can change all of it. Good luck